Dirty Talk - How to Pitch it Just Right Every Time

Author: Duncan Roberts

Dirty talk normally falls into one of two areas, depending on the persons involved.

Either the notion of dirty talk leaves you quite expectant, your heart a flutter and your libido quickly rising - or your relationship thoughts turn towards closure and the nicest way possible for you to extract yourself in the shortest amount of time possible.

Whichever of these two factions you fall into, hold your horses a second before jumping in. You need to check a couple of things first and make an informed decision before you react and potentially ruin something good.

If the thought of dirty talk, as suggested to you by a lover, brings a small tingle to certain areas and fills you full of anticipation, all well and good. But you still need to work out and be confident of your partners intentions and limits. You need to know where to begin.

If you are an ex merchant sea person who swears with more than 4 choice expletives when just asking for the salt to be passed, they're unlikely to be hugely surprised by you suddenly vocalising your sexual wants and needs in forthright and emphatic detail. But if you are the epitomy of innocent church mouse who would never dare to say boo to a duck, let alone a goose, you are more than likely to confuse and worry them if you suddenly start forth with a stream of verbals normally found in the books stacked carefully on the highest shelf that are wrapped in flame proof plastic and are covered in warnings!

Work your audience would be the best way of putting it. Work out in your mind what level you think your partner would respond to, what they would find enticing and not be thrown by. Then start your dirty talk at a level just below this and work up to it gradually. Think of them as a potential deer in the headlights, liable to startle and flee faster than you can brake!

If they respond well or even seem bored and deflated by your starting pitch, notch it up a bit by throwing in some more descriptive terms for body parts, gently getting coarser and more carnal as you go along.

If you fall into the category of relationship abandoner as soon as something so intimate/wrong/filthy/unusual is hurled at you - stop and consider something first.

Your lover has just suggested or asked you to join in on something that is intimate, private and trusting. The likelihood that they had to steal themselves to ask and that they have gone out on a limb to be this open and honest with you is without question.

Before you slam the relationship door in their face - stop and think about how much that shows of their commitment and feelings to you. They have just trusted you with an insight into their "inner" self, they've opened up and shared something, however indirectly, with you that not many would.

So before you react badly and take offence over something that really isn't worth getting huffy over - stop and think. Is this something that you could work on with them? After all, if they trust you enough to ask, the least you can do is trust them enough to be honest, to explain that you know nothing about this but that you are willing to try and learn - if they'll help you along the way? If it leaves you a bit cold and feeling wrong, explain that to them and talk about it.

After all - how do you know for sure you don't like something and won't enjoy it - until you have tried it?

About the Author:

If you have trouble getting into dirty talk then you should try some of the advice available from http://www.howtotalkdirty.info/

Technorati Tags:dirty talk, talking dirty
Generated By Technorati Tag Generator