Sex Tips For Men

A common mistake among men is to approach sex from a technical perspective. Men often see sex tips in the same way they see advice for approaching a technical problem. They want to know technical facts and see diagrams, know what to press and how to press it. Women don't have a technical solution! Women have emotional solutions.

The brain is the most powerful sex organ in the body and controls everything in sex. If you don't stimulate her mind during sex you won't be stimulating anything. Control the mind and you control the body. So understand her mind and you control her body too.

The mind is so powerful that it can cause arousal and then orgasm without any physical form of stimulation at all. Science has proved that sex and indeed orgasm occurs mainly in the brain and not in the body.

Have you ever wondered why it is than women who have sex toys and vibrators still have sex for pleasure with men? The simple answer is that sex toys don't provide the emotional psychological stimulation that a man does. A sex toy doesn't stimulate her mind in the way you can.

Learning technical sexual techniques are very useful. But if you don't arouse her through emotional stimulation and her mind she won't be fully satisfied. So you can learn all the sexual techniques in the world and still never please her.

What stimulates the mind are what I call arousal triggers. Arousal triggers are the way you act around her, your personality, the way you touch her, what you say to her, the way you say it, sensual massage and even the way you could smell are all examples of what could be arousal triggers that stimulate her mind.

So what are the sex secrets for men? Out of all of them the number one sex secret is just some good old fashioned simple communication! Unfortunately many relationships have poor communication when it comes to sexual needs or preferences. This leads to a lot of dissatisfaction and dysfunction in the relationship. Lack of communication is the number one cause of relationship and sexual problems.

The absence of communication is a leading contributor to women playing away from home. Women sometimes turn to other relationships to meet their physical and emotional needs if they are not met in their current relationship.

There would be no need or desire for people to be unfaithful if both parties would simply be honest, communicating their needs, desires and preferences.

Your partner could already be the woman you need if you teach her how to satisfy you, telling her what you want and need.

Communication with your woman is probably the most important factor for not only a satisfying sexual relationship but for a relationship in general.

Many men misjudge their partners by some how believing they can read minds or that they should instinctively know how to please them. This is a very deadly belief for not only the sex, but also the relationship as a whole.

We are all different and have unique sexual desires and needs. When you're in a relationship with a woman it takes time to learn what it is she wants.

Women have a core set of desires that are common to most women and there are also specific sexual needs. Your new lover will probably have different specific needs to your previous lovers. In a long term relationship you need to continue to communicate so you can continually explore and discover one another's bodies, needs and desires because needs' can change over time.

It's important to let your woman know what you need and it's equally important to be interested in what she needs as well.

For success it is key for both you and your partner to take responsibility for communicating your needs. It may sound harsh but if you have a woman who is not willing to learn and not interested in satisfying you, then should you consider ending the relationship. I call this kind of woman a project woman. You have to decide if she is worth your time and effort to fix her issues. I.e. she becomes more of a project than a relationship. Getting your sexual needs met by a woman is just as important as any other need in the relationship.

Some sex tips and advice on communication; Always speak openly, directly and honestly to her. Always be specific and detailed with her. Show her how much pressure, how much speed and timing that you need. Tell your woman where, when and how to touch you. Discuss what scenarios, sex techniques and positions you like. Let her know what you like to hear and when and how she should say it. Talk about anything and everything from oral sex techniques to penis length from safer sex to the g spot orgasm. Share your fantasies, desires and sexual fetishes. Let her know when something isn't working and also let her know when it is working well. You must also make sure she does the exact same in return to you.

Also remember it's about what you both want. Some guys get hung up on pleasing their woman and forget that their partner also enjoys pleasing them too. And some guys only care about their own satisfaction. There should be a balance of give and take in each partners sexual requests.

For many men who've attended our live "Sexual Mastery for Men" workshops this type and level of communication is something very new to them. Many men are surprised at what is acceptable to say and speak to their partners about. It can and probably will feel uncomfortable at first talking like this with your woman, but do it anyway!

Communication gets easier with time. Sharing your desires increases intimacy, enhances your sexual satisfaction and decreases the risk of unfaithfulness. Your relationship as a whole will be better, more fulfilling and exciting.