Women Using Men and Damping Them!

By: Esteri Maina

In most cases, now and in the past, many women have complained a lot about men refusing responsibility for women they make pregnant and leaving them to take custody of the children, especially in Africa. Things are slowly turning upside down.

Women have realized that they can equally do what men can do especially making it big in business. When they are financially stable, most women are opting for single lives. So they engage in relationships that lead to having babies that they are not ready to grant rights to their fathers to be custodians. They are therefore using men to have children and damping them without a heart.

Many men do not care about what a women feels when she is left all alone to bear a child that two mature people are involved in bringing into this world. It is simply painful for her. Sometimes men need to be treated the same way to experience what a woman feels.

But where is all this taking us anyway? By doing this who are we punishing here? The man responsible? The woman? Or the child. Why do we have to take our children through such insensitive conditions? We probably grew up knowing two parents, why do we want our children to grow without fathers? Especially when they have realized their responsibility. As much as we are punishing the men because they deserve it, let us also remember our children are human beings too. Why are you being so selfish as a woman. And for the men, why wont you take responsibility for a child you bring into this world?

If this world is on fire, then we are the people making it burn. Why don't we be responsible people? Bear children responsibly and bring them up the Godly way. Let us change for the sake of our children and our future generations.

Married and Cheating, When your children unearth it!

In a marriage, it is all about a man learns the woman is cheating, traps her and confirms, or the woman does the same. At the peak of it, one of them blows up and can take it no more. And brings it to the open. What follows could be whatever.a divorce, fighting, calling each other names throwing insults to each other, in short, all hell breaks loose and the marriage is threatened.

But what if the children or the child is the one to discover, his mom or dad is cheating? I can not imagine the impact that would have to that child. All I know is that, the family would break up immediately because; the two parent would start fighting. The child's life is never the same since he/she no longer sees the mum or dad the same again. Trust that was there is destroyed. I mean, this child's life is destroyed all his life. But life must go on. When the child is all grown up, he may choose to bring it to the open or vice versa.

Most of the children would choose to hide it just to protect their family and live with the guilt of knowing one of their parents is a cheater. Most parent would do anything to beg the children not to tell their partners because they know the impact. So that family no longer lives in peace. If you asked me, I would rather we all become responsible people. If you as a man do not respect your woman, then she will never be the sweet woman you used to know when you decided she should be your wife. Same case to the woman. Love can be sweet if given a chance. Everyday can be a valentines day for any married couple that know what love is. In this site, unique dating is the key. It doesn't have to be like the old same dating thing! Date responsibly; think twice before you do it. Have a heart.

This is an original article written by Esteri Maina on WOMEN Esteri Maina is an author with a great gift and full of inspiration.

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