Sexual Peak: Cruel Fate or Kinda Not True?

Author: Justina Mathews

So I was starving for some real meat on the topic of sexual myths. I am usually the go-to girl for sexual info, and I'm seldom stumped. The rare occasion I don't have an answer, the solution is only a bookshelf away. But wow, what a great feeling to read something and truly say "Huh, I never knew that."

What is something I still believe and would love to be proven wrong? Where can I find some real honest information on sex legends and myths. So I did what all lazy scholars do. I Googled.

And as I browsed through a myriad sexual myths both true and false -G-Spot, P-Spot, the "next" G-spot, female ejaculation, STD transmission, yadda yadda- I finally stumbled on a real treasure. The Sexual Peak!

I have always been under the impression that if there is a God, It is a female with a sick and merciless sense of humor because boys hit their sexual peak a solid decade before women. I did notice that a sexual desire peak is far different from a sexual prowess peak. I don't recall noticing any fun tricks in my youth on my end or his.

And I will expound for hours on the beauty of a night with a 40+ year-old man. But I really thought there was scientific data that led us all to believe women don't really feel that hunger-without-an-off-switch until 30. And to confirm, I experienced my sexual peak the morning of my 30th birthday. I woke up that morning and only took a break from the bedroom to go to my birthday party. And I didn't quite last the whole party, either. So here I am a few years past that birthday and assuming my long-term "mood" has been a fun and frolicky blend of hormones and age.

Surprise. Surprise. It's all in my head. And it's all in your head, too. Men and women hit their sexual peak at puberty. Curiosity, desire, confusion and need all happen at the same awkward, acne-prone time. However, society and psychology has created a time delay for women. My first source was Dr. Ruth, that sweet, little octagenarian who has guided anyone baby-boomer age and younger through the murky waters of sexual awakening. She says, "I think that such phenomena are very individual and I don't believe that we can put an age on them."

Also, the peaks are more plateaus. Boys run into the adventure a little earlier, but girls catch up fast and then the downhill slope doesn't happen until one's body starts to change (health issues, erectile dysfunction, and menopause). This means, with good genes, diet and exercise a man's sexual plateau can span 50 or more years and a woman is only limited by the hormonal imbalances caused by menopause.

Now that THAT myth has been blasted, I want to know how to keep my peak until my heart gives out -literally! So let's explore how to make every day a sexual peak day. UC Santa Barbara's SexInfo website actually said the scientific words of wisdom: "Use it or lose it". I knew I liked college for a reason. So the first rule of keeping a sex drive is having one. Second rule is logic: If your body can have sex as long as you can exert energy safely, then good health is important. Just because your privates can do it to completion, doesn't mean your ticker can. So aerobic exercise is a must-do. And don't think I'm only saying that to the "already old."

Consistent exercise gives you an instant edge in bed. Stamina, stamina, stamina. Third, along with the body, the mind has ended up being yet again, the most important sex organ. Make sex interesting and be okay with getting some science in the bedroom. Along with communication and diligent foreplay, check out the enhancers that work with your sexual needs. As some men get older, their erection may not get its hardest until just before orgasm.

For this, a good boosting lubricant may be the ticket. And women who are finding out men their age are lasting longer (which is normal as we get older), then a longer lasting lubricant like a silicone lube will be a good bedroom accessory. And of course, try new things. Go to a sex shoppe...or for most readers here...go to an unchartered part of the sex shoppe. Even something that you thought was too much or even too tame may spark the passions over the edge.

So there we go. Some good news for those of us who were afraid our peak was ending or too many years in the future. It looks like enjoying sex, learning to please and finding new ways to be pleased is a lifelong process that our bodies can handle for numerous decades. Guess that God wasn't playing a cruel joke after all.

About the Author:

Justina Mathews writes about issues that affect couples and today's woman concerning relationships and sexuality. She writes for her own blog, as well as special in depth articles that encompassing current issues related to happiness in relationships. She's also a staff writer for sexy costumes.

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