12 Mistakes That Prevent a Good Photoshot

Author: Lilia Parker

The good-quality photo, attached to marriage profile, is the main step towards success. The best is to have professional shots taken in a studio. However, if you prefer to make photos yourself, then our tips will guide you.

1. Interiors:

Remember, though, that the setting for the photo-shoot is extremely important; it should not take the emphasis away from you but, at the same time, it should not be dull or boring. Apartment interiors which contain sofas, cushions, wall carpets, soft toys, books and such like are definitely not suitable. That said, if you have the opportunity to take the photograph in a stunning, contemporary home then, by all means, make the most of the opportunity! It is best if the backdrop is monotone.

2. Lighting:

Always pay attention to the lighting as it should always be sufficient. The best type of lighting is natural light or sunlight. Insufficiency in natural day-light requires electric lights. Be sure that the light is not cast downwards, but focused on you. Choosing the correct lighting is the key to getting a good photograph. This reinforces the point that it is best to place your confidence in a professional.

3. Environment

Pay attention to the environment, your outer appearance and your attire which should not be too extravagant. Play around with the contrasts. Take several photos in various clothes and poses and also in different places. You don't have to just take photos in the home; you can also take them outside, provided the setting is stunning and you can get an artistic shot. That said, I will stress again that it is best to entrust a photographer with this, his professional flair will ensure the very best of photographs.

4. Variations of smiles

You must look gorgeous in the photograph as well as intriguing, alluring, confident, approachable, self-assured and dignified. Try taking a range of shots; some with bright broad smile, some with intriguing smile and at least one where you look serious. Serious, stern faces and expressionless, unfriendly appearances do not attract people's attention. Neither do haughty and cold looks. If you don't know which pose to go for, then have a flick through your photo albums or women's magazines beforehand and replicate what looks best in front of the mirror. Do not be afraid to improvise during the shoot, put on some upbeat music or chat to someone to prevent you from feeling self-conscious.

5. Style of clothing - how to choose the correct one

An extremely important factor in obtaining a great photo is your clothing. Your attire should be not too dressy but it should also not be too plain. Your clothes should not be overly modest but, at the same time, they should not be excessively flamboyant. Dresses, pinafores, different styles of skirt and blouse as well as stunning tops are perfectly suitable. Nobody can prevent you from wearing jeans or trousers, however, at least try to avoid this masculine type of clothing on your photos. Don't wear too much jewellery and it is best not to wear a ring.

6. Fitting of clothes and its colour

Your clothes should be appropriate. They should not be body-hugging. Your clothes need to suit you and draw attention to your assets while concealing your inadequacies. Buy yourself something new after a consultation with someone in the shop. Also ask for men's opinions as to whether the clothes suit you or not. Don't wear clothes that are multicoloured or too bright. It is recommended that clothes should match the hair colour and eyes.

7. Don't overdo with cosmetics and hairstyle

Don't wear too much make-up and don't go for elaborate hairstyles. If your hair is long, the best thing you can do is to wear it loose and leave it natural. This gives an excellent representation emphasising what men value the most: women should look feminine and elegant. Wear make-up so that it looks natural and is hardly noticeable. If you wear layers of slap, then it is difficult to see your face. Your face should be fresh and pure. Your photograph should show off your true nature.

8. Photos on different days

Don't just take one photo on one day. Take several shots over several days. This way you can change your disposition and the photograph accordingly so as to get the very best look. On different days, you can invent different scenes and settings for the shoot; in time you may even come to enjoy this hobby and take many more beautiful and fascinating photographs.

9. For women: do not ruin your chances - be modest

Never submit an extravagant, explicit photograph if you are searching for a husband; men want modest and respectable wives. The photos that are not modest can put off any of your potential groom, as man looking for a life partner, naturally prefer decent and modest lady.

10. For men: successful look

Men look best when they are wearing an outfit with a tie, or a shirt with trousers. Young men can get away with wearing jeans and a smart t-shirt or pullover. Don't wear sporting attire as it is a goofy look. It is best not to take photos with an expensive car in the background; this might look very appealing to gold-diggers. These types of photo show that the man is a show-off and wants to attract a frivolous, money-grabbing lady. Also, be careful not to show photographs with a bare torso as this comes across like you are non-committal rather than showing off your amazing physique!

11. Add at least 3-4 photos of different types

Put several photos of yourself on the site. Try submitting one photo that only shows your face, one that shows off your whole body and finally, one that is your favourite. Make sure that your head is not cropped in the photo and that your feet can be seen in the one of your whole body. Have several great photos on standby as they can be sent off to potential partners with letters of correspondence. Photos can ensure the best chance of contact and can help your partner to know you better.

12. Be critical, seek for advise

The quality of the photo is very important, since, without a good quality photo you can go unnoticed or even be cast aside. We urge you to be critical of the photos that you place on the site. Ask for people's opinion; your friends for example. It is important that the photo is a good representation of you so that you can be seen in the best and natural light.

And last, but not least - as soon as you get a chance, use the services of a professional photographer. The huge increase of responses and interests expressed will make you regret you did not do it before.

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Great Sex But Dont Pump The Dump

Author: David Wygant

So, you're dating a woman now whose only sexual experiences have been with men that are pump and dumpers. For those of you who don't know what a pump and dumper is: it's what I call 'minutemen.'

Not the minutemen from the Revolutionary War.. They get in, they thrust their hips, they pump a few times, and then they dump all their little men: all their little sea-men to swim all over the place.

A lot of women who are young (and some unfortunately that are older) have only been with pump and dumpers and they have no idea of how unbelievably amazing sex can be with an attentive, sexually aware man. They don't know sex with a man that has been reading these blogs - a man that really knows that sex and foreplay start right inside a woman's mind.

So let's say you've done it all right. You've started with sex and foreplay, and you've seduced her mind and you have her all turned on. How do you encourage this woman - who is basically very submissive in bed due to the fact that all of her experience is with Mr. Pump and Dump?

The reason why she is submissive, much of the time, is that she has never explored her own sexuality. A lot of women that have had pump and dumpers don't know what they want sexually, and they are usually women that have never masturbated. They don't know what feels good and what doesn't. Their only experience is with Mr. P & D.

For those of you who think he is related to P & G, you're absolutely incorrect. Pump and Dump is not Proctor & Gamble - though I heard that Proctor & Gamble makes their products for pump and dumpers. But it's just a rumor that I heard!

Anyway, how do you encourage this woman to open up to her own sexuality?

First of all, this woman may or may not have ever had an orgasm before. I would assume that she never has. She thinks she might be having an orgasm - it might be a momentary wave - but she is not having a full-blown orgasm.

If you ask her if she's had an orgasm, and she says, "I think so" - there is no "I think so" when it comes down to orgasms. Either you've had one or you haven't! If a woman will tell you that she thinks she had an orgasm, it means that she has probably only experienced a little wave of pleasure and not a full orgasmic experience. Ladies, please chime in here and describe what a full orgasmic experience feels like so all the men know.

So let's assume that she's never had an orgasm. You've got to become the teacher in this relationship. She is probably the type of woman that just expects you to do whatever you want to do, and she'll just lie there submissively.

So you need to show her slowly how amazing sex is. I would take some extra time and give her a full body massage. I would spend extra time kissing her and just touching her, everywhere except in her breast and her groin area.

I would take extra time when I go down on her and not only lick her, but to also touch all parts of her body also at the same time. I would also slip one finger inside as I was licking her in order to give her a different experience.

I wouldn't ask her if she is coming. I would just continually do all the things that I know bring pleasure to a woman, and I would ask her, "how does that feel for you? Are you enjoying this? How do you like the pressure? I want to please you and I want to make you feel amazing." Don't say, "I want to give you an orgasm." Don't tell her you want her to scream and yell. Just say, "I want to make you feel wonderful. Okay?"

And take your time. Allow her to open up and allow her to see sex in an entirely different light. Don't expect the magical orgasm right away. Don't expect her to open up immediately. Your only job is to show her - through a soothing, relaxing, attentive sexual session - just how great sex can be.

Another way to do it, too, is when you're having sex with her, is to do the opposite of what the pump and dumpers have done. Hold her really close to you so she can feel the tightness and feel the sensuality of sex, and then grind in very slowly as you pull her close to you. That way your pubic bone is actually massaging her clit at the same time. By doing that and staying deep inside her, you're going to give her feelings that she has not had before and you're going to get her to open up. You may actually get her to start having a clitoral orgasm that way, in time.

You are also going to show her a different side of sex, going to show her the sensuality of sex so that she can feel protected, warm, and nurtured during the experience.

Right now, all she feels is used. All she feels is that guys want to get inside, get off, and leave. So you've got to deal with the fact that she was with Mr. P & D. You've got to be tender and warm, and you've got to put absolutely no pressure on her at all.

By following these simple steps, you're going to make her feel really comfortable, and you're going to be able to get her to explore herself even more. She'll surrender herself to you, in time, but you need to be very patient - because the other guys, the Mr. P & Ds, were not patient. It's your turn to be patient now.

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Hailed on Fox News, The LA Times, The NY Times, Playboy and more... Legendary Dating Coach Launches a New Revolution For over nearly 20 years David Wygant has been earning the trust of American men and women looking to transform their love lives. (http://www.davidwygant.com)

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The Benefits of Casual Dating

Author: Terry Leslie

Casual dating was once the way the social circles of the world worked. During the post-virginal era and before the eighties set in with commitment in the third grade, casual dating was more the norm. Of course, once the whole concept of "go with me" came about and guys were being asked for commitment prior to puberty, the idea of casual dating has taken a back seat. There is a lot to be gained by going casual. Casual dating gives everyone an opportunity to really check out the playing field, to learn, make mistakes, and to be able to recover without having to decide who gets the couch and who gets the dog. Those who grew up in the eighties and nineties are now moving in together within the first month of ever meeting each other. It's nice to have a little social permission to pull back and reassess the situation.

The key to successful casual dating is honesty. Being up front with women about your non-exclusive intentions gives them the choice to either be comfortable with that or not. Most women actually are much more comfortable with the idea of casual dating than we believe. Sure, everyone likes to get a little weak in the knees over someone, but there isn't anything wrong with playing the field a little and getting to know people before jumping. If you haven't found someone worth getting a little weak in the knees over, most women understand that it's better to have a little company, get in a little practice time and experience, and learn more about the opposite sex. Besides, life really ought to be fun. And if you're too busy waiting for that perfect someone to come along in order to start having fun, then you certainly aren't likely to be having much. Wasting that kind of time just seems like the perfect set up for unhappiness.

The only time casual dating can be harmful is when nobody wants to be honest about their expectations and their intentions. That means that she is either going to freak out when she figures out that you aren't being faithful to her expectations or she is going to feel rather used when you find someone that you want to be exclusive with and so you move forward. The importance of honesty can't be stressed enough. Women don't respond well to being used, and if you choose to use someone the next guy that comes into her life is going to end up making up for your behavior.

Casual dating doesn't have to be complicated. When you find women that you really like you are more than likely to end up with one or two that make really good friends, even if that wasn't the initial intention. Women with whom you are friends with can be a valuable resource and will tell you honestly and truthfully what most women will think of your relationship ideas and beliefs. Having a good woman to help guide you toward the one that knocks the wind out of you can help educate you well enough to have a more successful relationship with the "right" woman.

When you are engaged in casual dating, you should be aware of your feelings and the direction that things might be headed. Casual dating doesn't mean that you enter into a sexual relationship with absolutely no strings or emotional connections attached. That is known as casual sex. Any woman that hears you talk about casual dating will assume that there will be some amount of involvement, while casual sex will translate into sex without strings. Some women are fine with casual sex while others are not. The more women are interested in casual relationships, the less they are interested in casual sex. Often a woman will deny her interest in casual sex, but will grow into it over time. Women have been taught that casual sex is synonymous with the word "slut."

For a guy, casual dating and casual sex might mean that same thing. In either situation, all vested parties simply need to agree to terms before venturing forward. In every relationship we negotiate the terms of the boundaries we are all comfortable with. That's why committed couples argue. When the boundaries change or are violated, often one party feels like they were lied to or misled. That is the number one reason I encourage such strong communication.

If you choose to go about the business of casual dating, and you find that either your feelings or her feelings are starting to change, it should be addressed immediately. It can be very hard for some men as well as for some women to engage sexually and not eventually find that they are developing feelings for each other. It happens. Sometimes it happens on both ends of the relationship and sometimes it happens on just one end of the relationship. If it happens on a one sided basis, it is highly recommended that the relationship cease at least until new terms can be agreed upon. Especially if one party is developing those committed relationship feelings.

Women have been developing this sort of casual dating mentality since they first learned the value of going to the restroom in groups. Somehow the bathroom became the one place where women can determine for each other the value of the guy they brought along, whether it is worth the effort of taking the guy home with them, and just how long is it appropriate to return phone calls after the guy is replaced by someone with more talent. It is the woman's prerogative to decide who she is going to spend her time with and how far she is going to spread her good time around. Often the only road block she runs into, outside of jealous friends, is resistance to her lack of commitment from family members. Being able to protect her a little bit and use a little discretion keeps you in her casual company much longer.

Learning about women requires being in the presence of women. And not just one woman. The more women we can be around, talk to openly and honestly with, the greater our dating education becomes. When we do finally find the "right" woman, we aren't so wet behind the ears and are able to take on much more than we ever anticipated without psyching ourselves out or sweating profusely from our own nervous energy.

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Vinyl Lingerie: It's Good for You

Author: Elaine Edwards

When scientists formulated vinyl as early as the 1920s, it was unsure any of them associated the plastic with body contours or sexy lingerie. But in reality, vinyl has its place in the world for being second largest class of plastic that's being manufactured worldwide in terms of total volume. Consider the amount of production in North America in 2000 - the total volume produced was 14.6 billion pounds of vinyl.

Vinyl is most probably known for the vinyl record. But more and more people are finding that vinyl has it place in lingerie lines. Many lingerie manufactures now offer a full line of vinyl lingerie on top of their regular line of lingerie. You can now find them in brick-and-mortar lingerie stores as well as in many online lingerie stores.

You can tell vinyl clothing items and lingerie by its industrial name - PVC or polyvinyl chloride. PVC resins on their own are actually hard, but when they are added plasticizers a flexible and elastic kind of plastic can be produced. Such is the flexibility of vinyl, you will soon discover that vinyl has evolved in uses - from electricity, construction work, auto manufacturing and packaging. This variation in industrial uses led to the production of vinyl with more sensual uses in clothing manufacturing.

When you're wearing vinyl lingerie in warm or moist situations, it can be sticky inside. To ease the stickiness, vinyl garments are treated with a thin layer of talcum powder. Vinyl lingerie comes in varied styles. You can actually buy vinyl bras, skirts, and panties. You can also buy vinyl corsets, vinyl sexy costumes and so much more.

In procuring vinyl lingerie, the most valuable consideration is the fit. In case, you didn't know it yet, vinyl clothing looks best on you when it is worn tightly, nay, stretched, against your skin. When you've bought your vinyl lingerie, the next thing you need to do is to take care of it and when we say take care of it, we mean really take care of it. Carefully follow the instructions that come with your vinyl garment. Take care not to scratch it because any scratch mark is already permanent. Vinyl lingerie may be on the cutting edge of fashion, but they also need caring too. A lot of it.

Just what is the experience of vinyl lingerie? When you buy a vinyl bra, it will look and feel like no other. It looks shiny, slippery and deliciously appealing. Producers of vinyl clothings are not confined to the underwear - there are also sexy vinyl costumes. The only limit to your buying them is your daring and imagination. There are schoolgirl vinyl costumes, sexy waitress vinyl costumes apart from the corsets and the like.

So open your eyes to any and all possibility. Vinyl has surely reached a long way from its applications in medicine, packaging, electronics, cars and what-have-you. It is plain to see that vinyl lingerie can take you to new levels of experiences and sexy new heights.

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Finding the Perfect Wedding Photographer

Author: A Nutt

In the hustle and bustle of planning a wedding, finding a great wedding photographer just seems like a difficult task. After all, you really don't know what you're getting half the time and if you hire a proper studio to do the job, you'll end up paying a small fortune! So, how do you know whether or not a photographer is good at what he or she does?

Here you'll find tips on how to check out a wedding photographer before you actually sign a contract.

Wedding Photographer Tips

Look at the portfolio. While this may seem like the most obvious method of finding out what a photographer can do, you'd be amazed at how many couples glance at a couple of photos online and make their decision. Ask to see the photographer`s wedding portfolio and look through the whole thing.

Get references. One of the best ways to find out if a wedding photographer does satisfactory work is to check with those he's shot for. You will want to ask them not only if they were happy with the photos, but also how the photographer was to work with. Some photographers are amazing at their job, but their attitude can cause a lot of extra stress on a day when you really don't need any more!

Avoid packaged wedding photographers. Some event halls offer special wedding packages that include a photographer. However, you don't know how good this person is, so it's not a good idea to just sign up for the photographer-included package. Take the time to do your research and you will be far happier with how your photos turn out.

Ask about the equipment maintenance schedule. Does the photographer send their equipment in for servicing on a regular basis? The last thing you want is for a camera to break down in the middle of your wedding. Anyone who sends their equipment in regularly (once a year is the norm) should have properly working gear. You may also want to ask if they bring in extras, as well, just in case.

Interview the wedding photographer. This is an important part of the process of choosing a photographer for your wedding, since it will give you a good feel for what the photographer is like. It's usually a good idea to interview at least 3 or 4 different wedding photographers before making a decision. That will let you know just what your options are and allow you to make the best choice.

Hire early. The good wedding photographers are all booked months ahead of time, so be sure to set this up early on. You will also have the relief of getting this stressful task out of the way long before you are down to crunch time with the wedding plans. As soon as the wedding date is set, start looking for a good wedding photographer.

Ask about a contract. If something should go wrong, you will need a contract to back your claims up. A good photographer confident in his skills will be more than happy to sign a contract that specifies how many 8x10s, 5x7s, etc. will be included in the package. Those who know they could be in trouble will generally try to get out of signing a contract, so beware.

To find a really great photographer, you'll have to do a bit of research, but it is well worth it. After all, this is a once in a lifetime event . . . you want to be sure it's captured perfectly!

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The Perfect Wedding Guide is your all-in-one resource to plan your Toronto wedding. Find everything from Toronto wedding cakes to Toronto wedding photographers all in one great, user-friendly resource!

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Pheromone Psychology

Author: Lawrence Uneet

Single and married people alike have discovered the benefits of wearing pheromones. Wearing pheromones is like giving Mother Nature a boost in helping send off signals to attract romantic interest. Unfortunately many formulated pheromone products on the market lack potency. Theoretically they should be achieving more attention, romance and intimacy from the opposite sex. However many of those products are missing the "it" factor. Many are of inferior quality and may lack potency because they lack psychological punch. However one manufacturer has had the foresight to take advantage of psychological factors to attract the opposite sex.

You don't have to be a psychologist to understand that to attract love you need passion. In many situations passion can be heightened by jealousy. Romantic jealousy can create a strong need for another person. It can also dismantle an individual's ability to make logical decisions and instead work on instinct. Regardless if it is a man or a woman, each gender may take a different path though the result will very often be the same. Inciting an emotional reaction that somehow channels a positive response or a need for an individual can be a potent love potion for the recipient. In the end, jealousy and passion are emotions that can create a deep desire in the opposite sex directed towards you.

One question you might ask is how to draw out these emotions from another person with a positive response while not being obvious. If you can somehow channel these emotions while remaining inoffensive you can become a powerful lover or enhance your relationship. You need to find a way to direct these emotions toward you so that only you are the recipient of desire. This is one of the benefits of pheromones. Hopefully a pheromone wearer looking to meet someone will be the only person wearing pheromones to allow them to stand out from the crowd.

Most pheromones today are composed of either Alpha-Androstenol (female pheromone) and Alpha-Androstenone (male pheromone). Generally, manufacturers use one pheromone to attract the opposite sex. This simplistic approach of one pheromone is not the most powerful approach. It may help attract the opposite sex, but it lacks potency or the "it" factor.

The solution is to wear a high quality product that contains both male and female pheromones. Now, this idea may sound strange as most people would not want to attract both males and females, but that simply is not the case. Products containing the duo pheromones have a two prong approach to improve attraction to the wearer. In the case of a man wearing the male/female pheromone, he is actually emitting more male pheromones (other than his own) to attract the opposite sex. Females in his proximity will feel a strong unconscious attraction to him while at the same time sense that other females desire him (as a result of the female pheromones added to the product). Isn't it true that if we observe that others are interested in a particular person, then we suddenly find that same person more desirable? In essence the competitive emotions for this man increased the female's desire to be with him.

Our customers who used our duo products experienced overwhelming interest from the opposite sex. In females we have noticed faces becoming flush and other physical changes when they interacted with pheromones. Some females have experienced momentary loss of thought, causing their attention to be redirected at the pheromone wearer. Men reported that their wives suddenly showed more interest in love making when they put the pheromones on. Some couples even use the pheromones as a marital aid. Women have described situations in which men were suddenly swarming all around them.

The psychology of the pheromone wearer is also critical for success. The wearer's mental attitude should be relaxed, calm and confident. If they are not, bad body language will repel the opposite sex. Desperation does not equate with positive results and instead results in disaster. An overanxious disposition can overwhelm any effort to be meet someone new.

Fortunately the two-pheromone approach will build the confidence of the wearer. The old adage that behind every successful man is a woman or vice-versa has some validity. In many situations a man will gain more confidence about himself from female pheromones. Women are a perfect example. How many times were you surprised to find out that a shy woman turned out to be a tiger in bed? That woman's disposition was completely changed by the pheromones naturally produced by their male partner.

Many of these theories are based on observation while wearing the duo pheromone product and from the accounts of other people. However, women or men can duplicate the results with a little patience over a period of time. To obtain more positive results it is important to wear the correct male/female pheromones mix made with high quality pheromones. A high percentage success rate indicates that very often the results are irrefutable and very gratifying for the pheromone wearer. Mother Nature would approve.

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Weddings - Planning a Small, Outdoor Wedding

Author: Denise Sanger

Perhaps you're the type of bride that doesn't want a large wedding. Perhaps you're the type of bride that only wants a handful of guests, and would rather keep the celebration to a minimum. Not every one wants the extreme attention that most weddings tend to bring. Maybe a small, low key wedding, in the backyard is what you'd like, with twenty to thirty guests, where everyone can just relax, have them self a beer, and take a break from life.

An idea to consider when planning a small wedding is to have it in a friend's backyard. Only twenty people will come which is all the bride really wanted to be there any way. Her best friends since elementary school, her close family members, and his choice of guests are all that they wanted to be there. Everyone is sitting comfortably in wicker chairs, there is no rush to her wedding, why should there be? Life is rushed enough as it is. She's wearing a simple spaghetti strap dress, in an emerald green, her hair is pulled back into a braid, and a flower crown is on her head. The bride is carrying sunflowers in her hand as her bouquet. In the back of the yard sits 5 tables, each table topped with a light green table cloth, and a set of sunflowers. The chair that each guest sits in during the wedding can be moved to the tables later for the celebration, no need in spending extra money when an item can be used for two purposes.

On each of these tables, beside the sunflower, is a small collection of wedding favors that each guest can take home. A simple picture frame displaying the couple, and a disposable camera for the guests to become a photographer for a day. Our bride wants her wedding as low key as possible, so why bring in a photographer, one of the guests are bound to get an amazing shot somewhere! Little pails with calla lily on the side sit in the center of the table as well, a cute little gift for each of her guests. Glass grapes are used as a place card holder which displays each of the guests' names, if she decides to do assigned seating. But since the wedding is of a relaxed nature, assigned seating is not a necessary thing. Most of her guests are either family, or so close they might as well be, so fancy eating is also not an item she chose to do. Instead a small barbeque was set up, and the guests help themselves to whatever they want.

With a little bit of relaxing music, and a small group of those close to her heart, our bride set up her ideal wedding, a small, relaxed wedding. Inexpensive, but what her heart desired most, she had the time of her life, and didn't need the attention that a large wedding brings. Remember, a wedding is a time for you, not for anyone else. Do what you and your fianc?eels is right, and if this small wedding sounds right to you, then don't hesitate to do it!

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Denise Sanger is the owner of several wedding planning websites including http://buyweddingfavorsonline.com . Buy Wedding Favors Online carries a diverse catalog of elegant, yet affordable wedding favors and wedding decorations. .

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How to Approach a Blind Date

Author: Marvin Perry

Lets assume one of your friends arranged a blind date with you and one of her colleagues. You've been on quite a few dates and you have had your fare share of blind dates as well. So you are somewhat familiar with blind dates. However, your gut instinct tells you that this is unlike any other blind date you have been on. Could this be your last date before you settle down?

Of course it's a natural instinct for you to ask some information about your would-be dates. Yet the friend who set you up wouldn't tell all. In fact, your friend would probably want you to find for yourself the things you want to know about your date. You are both excited and nervous at the same time. But because you trust your friend, you think that nothing bad is going to happen. What's the worst thing that could happen, anyway?

Blind dating puts dating on an all-new different level. In this case, there is an element of anonymity which adds to the excitement. This, however, could also bring fear among daters because more often than not, they do not know what to expect. So here are a few tips.

If you do not want to leave small details to chance, it is good for you to ask your would-be date's number (especially if you are a guy) and have a small conversation beforehand. Although this is not a general rule, it will somehow give you an idea on pretty much what to expect the moment you go out on a date with this person. This will give you some time to prepare.

Being attracted to a person at the first instance of meeting him or her could happen in real life. Yet this would entail some qualities that you find very appealing the moment you set your eyes on this person. Most likely, the cases of "love at first sight" are based on the physical aspect. So if your date is very attractive it will give you more options. But beauty is a relative word. What others find beautiful may actually look otherwise to you. So you should not go on a blind date expecting to fall in love with the person when you see them for the first time. Either you or your date may be disappointed. Lets face it, a relationship that is built purely on physical attraction, is not a very good relationship. There is more to love than what is seen by the naked eye.

You can treat it as a friendly date. Start the conversation as if you are talking to a friend. Keep your conversation light. It will take some of the pressure off your shoulders and you will have the opportunity to get to know your date even better. It may not turn out as romantically as you want it to be, but at least your date is a worthwhile experiencenot to mention that you gain a new friend in the process. Who knows, you will end up with that same person someday. Friends can be lovers, too. But only time can really tell.

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If You Want to Get Back With Your Ex, Do Not...

Author: Chris Meagher

Getting back with your ex again, is always possible. However, a great many people fall into the trap of a number of obvious mistakes, in their strategy.

Pushing

You cannot force love. The more you try to make your Ex love you, or accept you again - the faster they will run in the other direction.

Begging

Not only is this highly embarrassing to your ex-partner and anyone within earshot, it will come back to haunt you. Your own confidence, self-esteem and dignity, will take a nose-dive. Apart from being just plain pathetic, it also portrays you as being weak. AND, it won't work!

Alcohol

Drowning our sorrows is an inalienable right, for anyone who has been emotionally devastated by a break-up .Getting drunk, will win you no brownie-points though. With alchohol clouding your already confused and bruised soul, you are even more likely to do or say something really dumb - if not out-right embarrassing to all and sundry. Alcohol and anger,or violence often go hand-in-hand, too. Don't make things worse. Just don't be drinking when important matters are up for consideration!

The Telephone and the Drink

DO NOT even THINK about it!! Nothing worse than a maudlin, ranting and raving drunk on the other end of the phone.

Apologizing

Be careful here. It generally takes two people to ruin a relationship, be it with your lover, boy/girl friend, husband, or wife. Saying you're sorry is always a good start to the healing process, but avoid taking the blame for everything that was wrong with your relationship, as this may convince your ex that you are just no good. Although the break-up may indeed be all down to you - it's not your fault if it rained every time you went on a picnic.

Bad-mouthing

Your ex-partners friends are not going to like you anymore, they will take sides and it will not be yours. Friends do that, that's why they are friends. Solidarity and all that. Should you be unfortunate enough to be informed of negative advice, about you, by your ex's friends - wear it. Getting defensive, or even worse, bad-mouthing them in return, will only make things worse, for you. Your ex will be compelled to defend the friends and create another reason to dislike you. If you are going to succeed at winning back your ex, accept these views gracefully. You don't have to like it, or agree, just accept - don't compete, then at least you will have retained some dignity.

Settling for Less

Speaking of Dignity, do try and not grab the first available warm body, in an effort to make your ex-partner jealous. This will not work, and there are a number of colorful but rude names applied to this sort of person. Being strong and self sustained in this matter, indicates to your ex that they are the only one you are interested in.

The Leper in You

Relying on your friends, as a shoulder to cry on sure is comforting. But try not to over-burden them to the point, where they see you coming and hide. We all know the person who bangs on about their ex at every available opportunity. Given that this is often a normal part of the grieving process and cathartic, it is not necessary - don't let it be you. Be a grown-up.

Self Aggrandizement

Telling tales, embarrassing stories, or rumor-mongering about your ex, will only come back to haunt you. The "he said/she said" game is best left where it belongs - in the school-ground. This can have a snowball-effect and things can get blown out of all proportion. If you are going to start telling little lies - remember that you must keep telling them, to cover the previous ones - AND you had better have an enormous memory to keep up with them all. A Rule to Live by: "If you don't have something nice to say, then don't say anything."

The F-Word is an N-Word

Avoid using the word "friends". It's a No-No. Ultimately, you are trying to get back together, in your "relationship".

So call it that, manifest your desire - it's a "relationship". Calling yourselves "friends" is a backward step and you may just keep on going in that direction.

The Ghost in You

Try to avoid going to "those places we used to go". Or some place that you know your ex-partner will be. This will not appear as a "coincidence".

You cannot just casually re-join the "old group", you have a history now. Guaranteed, if you try this tactic - everyone will go quiet, immediately after they have said their uncomfortable hello's. Apart from making a fool of yourself, what are you going to do next? Well, you could just leave and retain at least some of dignity. But, you won't, will you? No, your going to go sit at the bar on your lonesome, sadly sipping at your drink. Wow, what a tragic sight - surely someone will see just-how-much-your-hurting and offer some succor? This will not garner you one ounce of sympathy! You are only going to look pathetic! Just don't do it!!

"I just don't care anymore"

Okay, you have felt better. Actually you feel like crap. Who cares what you look, or smell like? Well actually, your ex does. He/she will be seeing how you fare, you are supposed to be trying to get back there, not advertising that you are a lost cause. Don't give up on your appearance. This is the time to look your best. Start working out, get some new clothes, and focus on improving yourself. You need to show the world what your ex is missing, you are one prime catch.

The Plan

There is no plan, no rules, no "getting-back-together-class" - you have to do this all-by-your-self. Starting with small goals like, keeping up your appearance, or staying sober, try to achieve these things everyday. Then move on to those that are a little more difficult, like creating a happy environment around yourself - buy yourself a bunch of flowers every Tuesday. It's a small thing, but it helps - try it.

Try

Quite possibly the hardest thing to accomplish when you are feeling so devastated - You Must Try. Sitting around, wallowing in self-pity and remorse, will not bring your ex back.

Hopefully, the words above have given you an insight into what not to do, when trying to get back with your ex again.
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Bad Economy, Great Love Life?

Author: Wendy N. Lapidus-Saltz

Does love need money to flourish, or is a tighter and deeper connection made when a relationship must make do with fewer economic resources?

Ask a roomful of people and you'll hear passionate arguments on both sides. Must we all agree? Maybe not. But what about the two partners in a relationship?

The following are true stories that may illuminate some possibilities (used with permission; names changed).

Jody misses the days when her boyfriend was able to wine and dine her several times a week at events he was expected to attend for work. She is an enthusiastic socializer and jumped at the chance to enjoy the elegant galas.

Peter, naturally shy, was glad to have her at his side. She greased the wheels of conversation with her naturally-ebullient personality, and presented him with easy schmoozing opportunities that were virtually risk-free.

It was a match made in Heaven.

Then Peter switched industries to do what he loved. He was thrilled with the intimate alone time to hang out, cook together and simply talk, meandering from one subject to another.

Unfortunately, Jody's perspective was that their dating life had become mundane. She missed the busy-ness, socializing with new people, dress- ups and the fantasy. For the first time, she realized that Peter was a quiet man who most enjoyed his inner world, and often didn't speak for hours when deep in thought or buried in a book.

The relationship ended just three months after Peter declared he finally had his dream life.

Todd and Gary had the opposite situation. A downturn in both their financial situations forced them to cut back on travel, fine dining, and expensive hobbies. They were not at all pleased.

But they found that their new, lower-paying jobs gave them more time together. The change in budget encouraged simpler evenings and closer ties with old friends, and intimacy deepened.

Relationships often flourish during a financial downturn, as long as the new situation doesn't involve great struggle to maintain even basic necessities: a decent place to live, adequate food and medical care, some leisure activities, time with friends.

In fact, it may take effort to keep the newfound connectedness intact once financial reserves grow again, but isn't that effort worth the reward?

And learnings acquired in these circumstances can keep a relationship close, fresh, and thriving for the rest of the time the couple is together.

Why?

Several reasons may account for it:

- More cooperation is required:

Simple lifestyles that satisfy do require thought and planning, and the requisite cooperation breeds intimacy and trust.

- More creativity is demanded:

Less money requires more creativity to thrive on a daily basis. And that creativity flourishes with cooperation. Partners depend on each other when there are fewer financial resources to smooth the road. If you can't hire it out, you have to do it yourself, often together.

Monetary constraints may also demand that you reuse, replace, enhance, repair, borrow, and make do with what you have. All of these can lead to innovative thinking and great personal satisfaction when you discover what you can achieve by exercising your mind.

- Deeply-considered action evolves into thoughtfulness throughout life:

Vacations and fine restaurants where all is taken care of for you require little cooperation and negotiation. With unlimited budgets, you can throw it out and start over again. That perspective may begin with material things and migrate to people.

But limitations encourage ingenuity and well-considered actions. Every decision really does count. This leads to more talk time, think time, and aligning of priorities.

Cooperation and interdependence can grow into deeper friendship and love.

- Effort promotes appreciation:

Good old-fashioned teamwork means you work together on shared goals, share insights and resources, and reap rewards jointly. Ever see a team at work that just got through a tough project well? Camaraderie and loyalty deepens.
It's the same for a love relationship. Talk out the challenges, pool your talents, support each other's efforts, and enjoy the rewards together. Trust and love will grow by leaps and bounds.

- Romance and friendship are free:

In abundant times, people entertain themselves by using physical and monetary resources. In leaner times, they must amuse themselves with inborn talents, skills, and humor. Cooperation is needed for everyone's wellbeing.

Friends, acquaintances and even neighbors chip in money, advice, homegrown entertainment to amuse each other and keep body and spirit alive.

They need each other, so they share. (Ask parents or grandparents about the Depression. You may be surprised at how joyful memories mingled with difficult circumstances.)

The good news is that you don't need to be poor for life. Many wealthy people experienced periods when luxuries were nonexistent. Some bring that consciousness to their affluent lives later. Appreciation, gratitude, deep understanding of others, and generosity often result.

In lean times, learn to have a good life with less. In fat times, recall those lessons, adding the luxuries that you truly love and continue to appreciate what is modest, simple, and human. ©2008 by Wendy Lapidus-Saltz. All rights reserved.

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Meeting Online Date Safely

Author: Marvin Perry

After getting to know someone well, fooling around online, chatting, sharing goals and aspirations. Many internet daters will meet in person if they believe there is potential for a relationship. Sometimes people get caught up in the illusion of online dating and they tend to overlook some important issues when it comes to meeting someone in person. The person you were chatting with may not be the person they pretend to be. Some people tell lies online. While the other person may become a victim of a dishonest or dangerous person.

Men and women should use their judgment for personal protection. But sometimes date-seekers are so jaded of the fact that they must meet the other person in a safe place at a safe time. They get out of their shells and instantly embrace the other person as if they have known them forever.

Here are some applicable tips for online daters who plan to meet off line.

Only meet when you feel it is necessary to meet. Pressure is a bad recipe for bad online dating. Some of them gets eaten by this and easily gives in to the pressure of meeting up fast. It is better to continue dealing with the other person for a much longer period of time. Although you may not actually know everything about him online, you will be surprised that a longer talk provides some unintentional revelations about the other person. And by being a smart observer, you will easily have a point of judgment for that person. You will know if a good cooking is on the way. Or, things won't just work out for the both of you. So, it is best to be honest about yourself and also demand honesty from them.

Before you meet in person you should inform a close friend or a relative that you are going out on a date. Let them know the time, place, and most especially the identity of the person you are about to go out with.

Meet the other dater in public. Meet in a safe and familiar location where you know your way around. However, you should try to avoid the cafes or restaurants where people may know you. You should not give them the opportunity to get more information about you other than the things you have told them.

We all have a sense of intuition. Listen to what your secret angel tells you. You will feel whether or not the conversation is flowing well. If you sense that something bad is about to happen you should leave at once.

Do not reveal where you live. Do not let him drive or bring you home. Make excuses for saying no. And make sure that he doesn't follow you home. Change your route.

Although some people may be lucky enough to find in online dating that special someone that can drive them nuts and bring them into the house of wedding bells, remind yourself that there are few who do not. It is best to always keep online dating safe and sound.

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Bridal Shower:Making it Fun

Author: Hugh Parker

Throw the Best Bridal Shower

Bored of playing Bridal Bingo? Tired of making wedding dresses out of toilet paper? Fed up with wearisome wedding showers? We've got some great ideas that will add some pep to your party!

At first glance, most gift registries look a lot alike. Every couple seems to be in need of the same items. But you can make the average present stand out by adding pizzazz! If the bride and groom have registered for bath towels, why not include bath gel, bath bubbles, a loofah, or even a cool new showerhead (one designed for couples would be a romantic touch)? If Mr. Coffee is on the list, make more out of the 'maker by adding the couples' favorite flavor of coffee, a pair of pretty mugs, and perhaps a bit of delicious biscotti. Think a vase is too plain? Fill it with a beautiful bouquet of the bride's favorite flowers. And if wine glasses seem too simple, purchase a wine of the month membership for the new Mr. and Mrs.

Toss those tired shower games to the curb! Try playing Name That Tune. Each guest must write down a song lyric that reminds them of the bride and an adventure they shared. For example, the maid of honor might recall "searching for my long lost shaker of salt" as a tribute to the many nights she and the bride spent making margaritas. Have fun with Fill-In-The-Blank Vows. Pass around two separate sheets of paper. One sheet should begin with "I (bride's name) promise to" and the other sheet should start "I (groom's name) promise to". Each guest should then add one vow to both the bride and groom's lists (I, Gary, promise to take two minutes in the shower so that I can conserve more water for my wife's thirty minute session). How about a game of WWBD- What Would the Bride Do? Give each guest a card with a silly scenario written down, such as "What if the best man begins running through the reception without a shirt?" The guest must then think of an appropriate response. "Make a toga out of a tablecloth and put him at the front of the conga line!"

Bridal showers don't have to be all about punch, cake, and cards. Add some flair by creating a theme. Are the bride and groom a "green" couple? Make the festivities environmentally friendly. Surround the guests with nature by hosting the party at a botanical garden or local park. Shower the couple with gifts that give back to the earth like cotton linens, wooden utensils, and energy-saving electric bulbs. Print shower invitations on recycled paper. Will the bride and groom be honeymooning in a special location? Try a travel theme. Invite guests to bring gifts that the couple will use while on their trip. For example, if they plan to tan in the tropics, guests should give items like beach towels, bathing suits, set up a spa day at a local salon, or purchase gift certificates to area restaurants. If the bride and groom would prefer a couples' shower where they can both attend, consider a bar theme. Suggest that guests bring a bottle of wine, a cool microbrew, or a set of funky martini glasses to help the bride and groom stock their personal saloon. And for the couple who already has everything and would rather not register, make it a charity shower. Ask guests to bring an item that the bride and groom can donate to their favorite charity. Food, clothing, and cash all make for generous gifts that the couple will appreciate and the community will benefit from.

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Having Trouble Hanging Onto Relationships

Author: Andy Smith

I've known people who are very smart, sometimes very kind, they are not drunks or addicts, they are funny, good looking, sometimes even wealthy, and yet somehow they have great difficulty hanging onto a relationship longer than a year. They don't know why, but their loved ones keep leaving them. It hurts particularly when the person they are dating just quits talking to them.

You have to understand that people won't choose to be with you because you have great qualities, or because you are right and can win arguments with them. They will choose to be with you because they feel good to be around you, just as you should feel good to be around them. A relationship where both parties feel better to be around each other are the ones that bring joy to both parties and last.

You must first be certain you choose to date only those persons who will treat you well. Often people who do not treat others well will be very charming in the beginning. This can mislead, so to recognize a person who will treat you poorly one day, look for how they treat others now. What is their general attitude of other people? How did they treat their previous partner? How do they treat their mother, the waitress, their boss? Because if they are treating others poorly, sooner or later that is how they will treat you. Avoid all people who do not treat others well and speak well of most people.

To improve your relationships you should also carefully examine how you are treating your girlfriends or boyfriends. Treating someone well is about more than doing nice things for them. If you are having trouble maintaining relationships, then you would to well to consider if you are listening to what your partner is saying they need in your relationship. Many people discount what their partner is telling them and ignore the warning. But if the partner is not happy they will eventually leave and no amount of arguing or persuasion or gifts will get them to stay.

All your dealings with them must be completely honest. You must avoid saying things that might make them feel badly about themselves. If you said something that hurt them, being forgiven does not mean that statement or hurtful action is erased and forgotten. They must feel good to want to be around you. They must feel they can trust you, that you will respect them, listen to their needs, and care about helping them to be happy.

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From "Who, Me?" to "I Do": Marriage, Step by Step

Author: John Smith

Whilst no two marriages are the same, there are certain features common to any relationship that lead up to this eventuality. They are worth exploring if only to see if you might be on the path to wedded bliss yourself, and if so, how far along it you are. If you're shopping for wedding gifts, see if you can get some inspiration from this little guide.

Stage 1 - That first lingering glance

Meeting one's partner was traditionally done shortly after the couple's eyes met across a smoke-filled room. But now the smoking ban is in force, are relationships doomed outside the fields of firefighting and pest extermination? Probably not. Some awkward folk have opted to ignore the smoky room tradition altogether and meet their lovers at work or via a friend, or have taken matters into their own hands and met over the internet or through a lonely hearts column. "Our smileys met over a 2Mb broadband connection" just doesn't have the same ring to it, but it's probably a lot healthier.

Stage 2 ¬- The introduction

This is a tricky bit. Do you big yourself up a bit or play it straight? If the relationship lasts more than a few days, you might wish you'd been a little more honest about your yacht / Porsche / talent / friends / job (delete as applicable), but then again if you're too honest you'll probably never make it to stage 3 anyway. So play it safe and just don't mention your negative points; by the time they have surfaced you'll either be hopelessly in love or deleted from their SIM card.

Stage 3 - Dating

Dating sounds so quaint in the 21st century, doesn't it? But you get the picture ... going to the cinema, the pub, the football match, the embroidery class; whatever floats your collective boat. It's a phase of innocently getting to know each other whilst still living separate lives.

Stage 4 - Being an item

Now it's starting to get serious. Your social lives more or less revolve around each other, and though you might be allowed to see your friends every now and again, you're under strict instructions regarding your conduct, whether the details are spelt explicitly out or merely assumed. This is the stage where you will learn the true meaning of the word doghouse, even though you always thought it was simply a kennel. People will also start referring to you as X and Y, rather than just you, and you might get a personalized windscreen sticker if you live in the 1970s.

Stage 5 - Cohabiting

Some couples prefer to wait for stage 6 or stage 7 before sharing a roof, but as a test of the strength of your affection for each other's bedroom, bathroom and kitchen habits, it is second to none.

Stage 6 - Engagement

You are so sure of your love for each other that you decide to get married and make your intentions clear with a ring and maybe even a party. To potential suitors, you are officially out of bounds. One of you might suggest a joint bank account or a mortgage. This is a test. Nobody knows the right answer. You'll also be arranging the special day and compiling a list of wedding gifts during this time, so it's great fun!

Stage 7 - Marriage

That first meeting, be it hazy or high resolution, is but a distant memory as you make your vows and declare your love in public. Whether it's at a place of worship, a registry office or some other romantic location, it's the culmination of one long procession of events ... and the start of another one.

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Four Mistakes to Avoid When Seducing Women

Author: Daniel Millions

If you are new to the dating game or are a single guy who has not had the best luck in attracting women then you this article is for you. There are many ways to impress a woman when you first meet them and it is definitely true that first impressions count. For this reason you need to be aware of some of the common mistakes that men make when trying to pick up women. Hopefully by eliminating these you will go on to enjoy a lot more female attraction. This article will help you by highlighting four of the most common mistakes made.

Perhaps the worst thing that any guy can do after meeting a woman that they want to seduce is to make your intentions obvious. A woman loves to feel wanted, that's for sure, but they do not want you to give yourself right away. Instead they want to feel like there is a challenge to overcome. When you meet the woman try to show a little mystery and this will get her curiosity going.

Once you are able to start a conversation with a woman then you need to avoid the second mistake. Your ability to communicate with her will be the basis on which she decides to meet up with you again in the future. In this respect you need to avoid appearing too shy and also not overconfident. The guy has to strike a fine balance between the two otherwise she is likely to lose interest very quickly.

You can achieve this by avoiding talking about yourself too much and instead allowing her to tell you about herself. Listen to what she has to say and try to ask interesting questions that will in turn stimulate her interest in you. By encouraging a natural conversation you will avoid appearing nervous or arrogant.

A third common mistake is to initiate physical contact too early. This is a big no-no as if you do it prematurely you instantly appear sleazy and only interested in sex. Instead you need to learn how to understand the woman's body language. A woman will usually send out subtle hints such as lots of touching of the arms, eye contact and looking at your mouth and lips as signs that she would like closer contact with you. This can be hard to judge at first, but with experience you will be able to recognize whether a woman is interested in you or not.

The final most common error is to talk about your past relationships. This may appear an obvious mistake, but it is a tripwire that most women will throw up in order to measure what kind of partner you might be. Once again you will need to strike a balance. If you speak about your ex-partners in a negative fashion by blaming them for the end of the relationship or perhaps stressing her negative traits then your potentially new girlfriend will be thinking that you will repeat this for her one day.

Likewise, if you refer to your ex-partner in a positive light by reciting past memories that you shared and how you wish things had been different then the woman will be convinced that you should be with your ex and not her. In this situation the best advice would be to give a short balanced account of the past and emphasizing a mutual, friendly separation. This way she will feel that you are decent and fair guy.

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Making an Emotionally Unavailable Man Commit

Author: Aaron Adams

There's a breed of men that loves to date but hates the emotional intimacy. They would want to be emotionally unattached, but want to play on the dating field. That is what they all want, to date and have fun. One casual relationship, but no strings attached, please. These days, that is quite acceptable already as there are also women who are players and think the same way as this kind of men.

It works just fine if you are a player yourself. The challenge comes when a woman with commitment in mind dates a man who has no plans of getting into a serious relationship. However hard you sweet talk that man into committing would be like squeezing water out of stone.

Believe me, even if you use all the tricks in the bag, including shutting up, it just won't work. Men who prefer to be emotionally unavailable know what they want and love the fact that they can play the field and remain uncommitted. It will be frustrating for a woman to make that kind of man commit. Trying will prove to be futile.

It should be the man's responsibility to keep the relationship alive right?

Yes and no actually. Truthfully, men must take on more responsibility to keep the relationship going but reality shows that it does not always work that way.

Reminding them again and again will not work, because they would think that you are their mom who kept on ordering them around when they were still kids. Nagging would almost guarantee that you will not see even the shadow of that man in the days to come. Forcing the man to go the direction you want him to go will only make him move farther and farther away.

Should you say something or forever hold your peace? What will work and what will not?

There are many things you can do to make him go towards what you want willingly. But the key lies in your hand. If you want a long term relationship, you might want to change a few things like the way you see things, and the way you show him how you feel. It will be a sacrifice, but making him fall for you will make the sacrifice worth it.

How you see things between a man and a woman may have to change. Believing that it is all the man responsibility to make the relationship work, or thinking that he should accept you for who you are flaws and all are thoughts you need to change. If you choose not to change and continue believing those lines, then you can expect Prince Charming never to find you ever again.

Listen to him and show him you really care and that you are interested in what he thinks and how he looks at thinks. Listening will make you see how his mind works and you may be able to find his weakness and make him feel that you are a gem that he should not let go. Who knows, probably the reason that he has remained in the field is because he has not found that woman who knew how to push the right buttons. Be the woman that he has been dreaming about and be amazed on how he will do his role in the relationship without you lifting a finger.

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Tips to Increase Your Dating Confidence

Author: Daniel Millions

Many times dating is all about confidence. People like people who are confident. This does make a lot of sense: you would want to meet someone who was happy, comfortable around themselves and easy to be around wouldn't you? Those are some common traits of a confident person. Fortunately, confidence can be learned and you can develop more as time goes on.

Accept yourself. One of the first steps to becoming a confident dater is to accept yourself. You may be short or you may have a big laugh, though learning to accept yourself exactly as you are will make you much more confident. People like people that accept themselves. When you accept yourself, it is like you are comfortable in your own skin. The person that accepts themselves is easy to be around because quite often they will accept other people just as they are. It is easier to accept other people, as they are when you have accepted yourself as you are.

Know your good traits. We all have good traits. Knowing what yours are will help make you more confident at dating. If you are someone who can easily entertain people with a joke or if you make a mean margarita, these are great abilities that make you unique. While you don't want someone to be around you just for your traits having these traits will help attract someone.

e all want someone with similar or complementary traits to our own. Athletic people most often want to date athletic people. Creative people prefer to date creative people. Ambitious people like to date ambitious people as well. Knowing your positive traits increases your confidence and helps you understand what makes you attractive to people.

Make yourself the best you can be. While most of us cannot look like Cindy Crawford, many of us can admit easily that we can look better with some extra effort. A new haircut and some shiny shoes can work wonders. Even just ironing the shirt you are wearing can sometimes make a big difference. Good grooming and hygiene habits are critical when it comes to dating. You are the only you that you've got so take good care of yourself! Eat properly and exercise daily. All of this will make you much more confident while dating.

Meet more people. Meeting new people can be kind of stressful. What makes meeting new people very stressful is often we put many expectations on these meetings. If you are hoping the new love of your life will be the one you meet, you are putting a lot of hope on this one particular meeting. You can easily relieve some of this expectation anxiety by simply learning to meet more people. Get out there and socialize more. Or learn to talk to people while you are out and about doing your regular chores. You'll soon discover that people will talk to you if you talk to them. Being positive and friendly will have more people approaching you easily.

With some practice, you can soon become more confident at dating. Dating can be challenging for so many of us. Even the person who you think has everything may be the one who gets the most nervous about dating. Learn to develop a positive attitude about dating and look forward to meeting new people. The next new person you meet could be very special to you!.

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Are You Ready to Start Dating Again?

Author: Daniel Millions

Perhaps you are newly single and looking for a great way to meet people. It can be hard to start dating once again. Many people truly dread the thought of getting back out there to date a new guy or girl. Dating is full of anxiety, heartbreak and anxiety. It makes you feel like a teenager. The first thing to think about is: are you actually ready to start dating again? Sometimes people think about starting dating before they are actually ready. It is important to date only when you are ready.

When you date, you are going to meet new people. You never know who you could meet. You could meet the new love of your love. Or you could meet someone who just isn't right for you. Being in the right state of mind ensures that you'll be ready to have the best relationship that you can have. Before you start dating, examine the following self-study questions:

Are you open to dating now? Some who say they want to date may not be completely ready to date. Examine your heart now and really ask yourself if this is the right time for a relationship. If your career is asking for a lot of your attention, or if you have young children that are taking a great deal of your time it may be harder to date right now. However, this does not mean that you can't date. Focus on understanding if you are open and willing to meet someone right now. Otherwise you are just wasting your time.

Do you have the free time to date? Dating takes time and you need to have the perfect combination of patience and anticipation. Love comes to all who are ready. However, one never knows exactly when true love will arrive. It is critical that you be available to go on lunch, dinner and coffee dates with potential dates to see if you are going to meet your perfect match. Just like the saying you need to kiss a lot of frogs to meet your prince you need to be available to kiss those frogs to see if they will turn into that wonderful Prince Charming!

Are you open to trying dating services? There are those who enjoy going to singles events in person and others who would rather have root canal. Everyone is different. Online dating does not necessarily make dating easier: it simply makes dating different. You have the benefit to meet people by selecting them through categories when doing an online search for potential dates.

There is also speed dating for those who wouldn't mind meeting a lot of singles in a short period of time. For speed dating your first impression needs to be excellent. Then there is everyone's favorite: blind dating. Don't knock blind dating, you can meet someone wonderful people through a blind date if you are sensible about it. To date in this day and age it is no longer heading down to the next stool at the malt shop, you need to try some different options.

Do you have good common sense? While there are people who date who get a little carried away it is important to have a good sense of what is best to do in a situation when you are meeting a stranger. Don't meet someone in private. Don't give someone too much personal information. Let a friend know you are meeting someone new and exactly where you are meeting them just to be safe. If anything feels "off" or sends up a red flag, tell them you can't meet. It is better to still be single and have some common sense than to be in a dangerous situation and on a date!

Are you willing to give people a chance? While you want to have common sense, you also want to give people a chance. Do you have the time to date? Are you open to meeting new people now? Are you still heartbroken over your past relationship? To date online successfully you need to be willing to give people a chance to get to know you. Those that truly want relationships are going to want to spend time with you and will be taking the same risks in having a love relationship that you will be taking.

Dating can be a great way to meet someone if you are open to it. There are many that have met the love of their life by just taking a chance with their heart!.

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Different Ways to Pick Up Women

Author: Daniel Millions

Have a date tonight? If not you probably don't know the secret to picking up women. Lots of guys that seem to have everything together wind up going home to their apartments to open a beer and watch another game on ESPN alone.

Well it doesn't have to be that way. You can learn how to pick up women easily and all the time. The first thing to understand is that she is just as interested in dating as you are. Understand that ice girls are taught to play hard to get from the moment they understand what dating is. They are told that if they come across too aggressive with a man, that he isn't going to like it. So they don't seem interested when they are or they don't call you back. How can you tell the difference between a woman who is playing hard to get and a woman who really isn't interested?

The woman who is playing hard to get will still be standing next to you and may be looking down at the floor. Or she may touch your arm. Or the woman talks to you on the telephone, keeping you on the telephone longer by asking you questions. In short she doesn't just say no thanks in a nice way, she prolongs the encounter in some way. That's the easiest way you can tell she's playing "hard to get" with you.

It is no secret that women like confident men. However, many men mistake the idea of confident for some type of arrogant jerk. They think that a confident man is the type of man who thinks he is always right, always perfect. That is not quite what a woman is looking for. Most women are looking for a man who accepts himself as he is with his good points and his faults. If you can be confident enough to accept that you are shorter than she is, instead talk to her anyway she is going to admire your confidence.

A funny guy also has great success with women. This is not to say that you have to be a comedian. Learn to tell a story in an adventurous way. Or learn several good jokes that you can tell when you meet women. A word of warning: do not tell jokes that some women would consider to have racial, ethnic or sexist slurs in them. An off-color joke or remark could easily turn off a woman who is already interested in you. Don't take the chance and lose out on a great date with a beautiful woman because you tell her some dumb joke you don't even think is that funny. Learn some clean jokes, the kind you'd tell your boss at work.

One of the best ways to pick up any woman is by using common courtesies. Women love a man with good manners. This is something they will always tell their friends after they have been on a date. Did he open the car door for you, they'll ask each other. Did he stand when you walked into the room is another question that they'll ask. While some of these may seem a bit formal to you, having good manners shows a woman that you know how to treat people well. If you know how to treat people well then you'll most likely treat her well.

Another top tip to pick up women is to be nice to the other women in her life. If you are interested in a woman, be nice to her sisters, friends, mother and other women. Women talk to each other. If you are not polite and thoughtful then guess what they are going to talk about you. However if you make a great impression they are going to all say nice things about you: this is going to make snagging this woman all the easier.

Picking up women always gets easier with practice. Add some of these tips to your daily life and you'll soon discover that you are picking up more women with ease.

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Using the Right Words to Make Him Commit

Author: Aaron Adams

Seeing the boyfriend slowly drift away the moment you confessed your feelings is frustrating. I thought they said that the truth will set you free? How come he virtually ceased to exist when you told him the truth?

Men see honesty in women as admirable. There are men who are even attracted to women who are vocal and honest about certain things. The bad news is, when you tell him how you want to go deeper in your relationship in one go, then you can almost expect him to scram, never to be seen again.

The wonderful and marrying types of guy almost certainly had their share of dating the odd and clingy women - the kind of woman who glue themselves to their man and will never let go ever again. So the moment the guy got away you can be sure that he learned his lesson and will never get into a relationship with a woman of the same kind.

In the man's vocabulary, clingy means needy. And it is these kinds of women who tend to rush into the relationship. Granted that you are neither clingy nor needy, but by pushing too hard and too fast it will make red flags go up and sound the alarm that there is a clingy woman in the vicinity.

But to balance things off, it is also not ideal for you to not say anything and pretend that nothing is wrong. The secret is striking the balance on how much to share and what to say. If you do not say anything about yourself and will not tell him how you truly feel, then he may perceive you as the distant type. Someone he cannot hold close to his heart. You may not be labeled as clingy but you can't hold on to him either.

So how do you talk to him about committing?

Do not forget that you cannot convince your man to love you. He has to give it to you. Forcing him to go into something deeper in the emotional level will most certainly make him pack up and ruin your chance with him.

Another thing you need to remember is that the good catch always knows what he wants. If he would list down what he wants, top of that list would be to spend time with a woman who would make life more fun, interesting and memorable. He would want to go out with someone who is independent, and a no-fuss type of person. It may sound so simple, but they want an uncomplicated life. If you are interesting and lovable enough, then he will definitely want to create something beautiful with you.

To simplify things, you need to listen to him. Do not force him to be someone he's not. Learn to acknowledge your differences and learn to look at things the way he looks at them. The moment you see life according to how he views it, then you will be able to understand him more. Know his language and you will know how to make him see how a good catch you really are. This may not work in all relationships because there will always be someone who is incompatible with you. Whatever happens, be as desirable as you can be, and when the right man comes along, he won't be so hard to handle anymore.

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